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But God~ Looking Back With Gratitude & Forward In Faith.

February 10, 2020
no fear just hope

The only thing that is worthy and justifies incorrect grammar, is when God intervenes. 

BUT God,’ (Ephesians 2:4) in the bible comes in moments where there seems to be no hope, then God suddenly intervenes to reveal His supernatural powers and His sovereignty. Its like He is storming in shouting ‘ No , no no, don’t close that chapter yet, I am not done with that season yet, I still have a say in it’/ don’t shut me out’.

God’s goodness goes beyond all our expectations and imagination. It is bigger than all of us

As human beings, we have a reputation for ‘selective forgetfulness. We tend to allow our hearts to forget the good things especially during hard times. Deuteronomy6:12 take care that you do not forget the Lord, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery“. So many times, the Israelites had to look back and be forced to remember how they had been rescued.

Since we got engaged and later married, going 12 years this year, I have had a book where each month I have been writing prayer points, come back and write answered prayers both for friends, family and myself. There are so many answered prayers the last 10 years but also unanswered prayers both for friends/family or myself.

However, in this season, I choose to count my blessings. In those seasons when I am between what God has done and waiting for the things he is about to do, I always take that book and go through it. Every single time, I am always ‘surprised ‘ at some of the answered prayers which could have been easily forgotten.

Whenever, I went back to read what God had answered, I would highlight what spike to me most especially if we were going through the same season of waiting.

It is very easy for us to fall back on the place where answers haven’t been given, where there’s uncertainty, that place where God didn’t come through for us the way we expected him to because that’s where our mind loves to thrive on, ~ places of doubt, regret and the ‘what ifs’. Instead of falling back to the familiar seasons and moments where we were at our darkest moments BUT GOD, came through for us. Let us remember that each day we rise He has new mercies at our disposal

Lamentations 3:22-24″ The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;2 his mercies never come to an end; 23 they are new mevery morning; great is your faithfulness. 24 The Lord is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him”

God’s best friend David invites us to intentionally schedule time to look back into the details of our lives and think on the goodness of our father.

My mouth will speak in praise of the LORD. Let every creature praise his holy name for ever and ever.Psalm 145:21. On the other hand, we might be thinking ‘ what’s there to praise God for when all that surrounds you is heart ache after heart ache.

No matter how deep the valley you are in, please know that God will never forsake us. His word confirms this 1john 1:16. I think I love this translation better:

“For out of His fullness [the superabundance of His grace and truth] we have all received grace upon grace [spiritual blessing upon spiritual blessing, favor upon favor, and gift heaped upon gift]”.Amp.

Like David, we need to slowly look back this past year and really deeply check mercies that had the almighty Gods doing to take place. There’s no doubt that we will find not one but several glimpses of His blessings and actual riches of his blessings.

As much as it is hard to reflect on His goodness, we need to walk in the confidence that “He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all—how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:32

The same God that gave His only son for your life will give you everything He has promised and He is with you always. No works will make us deserve His kindness, but out of his mercy and grace, He continuously purposes to choose us over and over again.

2 Peter 1:3 “By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence”

Looking Back With Gratitude
Looking Back With Gratitude – Image by Nelly

Therefore, even in the midst of the storm the psalmist urges us to reflect and give praise to God, acknowledging that He is the one able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we can ever imagine.

When there’s a positive motivation or reward, praise automatically comes easy. We are happy and feel generous so it only comes natural for us to say good things in response to what we might have received or actions that might have been done to us.

However, there are seasons where our hearts don’t seem to do this automatically. This is because, the praise is not coming from a motivated generous heart but one that is at the crossroads of waiting on God or in seasons of pain and hurt. Where we don’t see His goodness and our environments constantly magnifies the negativity around us and the unanswered prayers.

When we bring ourselves to praise God in these moments, we honour God as we choose to offer sacrifices of praise to Him. Not because of what He has done but who he is in our lives. Its praising in the pain. Reminds me of the song ” I will praise you in the storm….’

Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise–the fruit of lips that openly profess his name. – Hebrews 13:15.

I want to encourage us to always remember moments where ‘But God’ is mentioned, because those are the moments where what all seemed impossible, is made possible by His grace.

I want to also challenge us, to look back especially in the seasons of waiting. The seasons where the enemy seems to be winning , take moments to acknowledge God and all the has done in your life. God will not look down on this form of praise, He will gladly and proudly inhabit in it.

Ephesians 2: 1for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins…..Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath. 4 But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy,

5 made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.

6 And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus,

7 in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.

8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—

9 not by works, so that no one can boast.

10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Prayer

Father God, thank you that while we are in the waiting season, you show us glimpses of the blessings to come. We praise you for who you are in our lives and for your continued faithfulness this past year. Teach us to look more deeply into your goodness and to always count our blessings. In Jesus name.

Amen.

Lots of love,

Mama Faith, Hope and Love.

Faith over Fear New Normal

Praising in the Storm.

September 21, 2018
Image by Nienke-broeksema

“ 12 losses just under 10 years, 3 funerals, 26 weeks and still counting of bedrest, more prayers, tears and challenges than I can count and never giving up faith and hope has led to my very first viability day. I used to dream about what it would be like. Although this is not the finish line, I want to celebrate the rainbow colored light at the end of the dark tunnel ” I read this message from a friend Melissa and for a moment, I forgot about my own angel Olivia.

After I was discharged from the hospital, another message followed. A friend called to break the news that they were finally expecting. She exclaimed “Nelly, remember you prayed with me the last time, not sure you remember your words in that prayer, but I still do and God has indeed answered just like you prayed”

I could feel her deep joy from the phone and it was contagious. I sobbed in joy and immediately prayed “Thank you God for this blessing, please keep this baby ‘baking’ in the womb, keep them healthy, and bring them home safe’’. This is after almost 10 years of them trying to conceive, thousands of money spent on IVF which failed, and years of physical and emotional stress.

She had found out the day I was rushed to the hospital in a critical state and had since been praying for us and waiting in the hope to share her good news once I was discharged hopefully with Olivia. But now, she was mourning with me and battling how to share this good news with me until she couldn’t keep it anymore and I am so thankful she shared the good news as this was a testimony even for me. It reminded me that God was still in the business of restoration and faithfulness. Wow!

After being diagnosed with IC and placenta previa, I immediately turned to the internet for more information so I can be my own great advocate. During that quest and pursuit, I found my tribe~ these are more than 25 thousand women who have each gone through or currently going through pregnancy-related complications related to IC and many others.

In these groups, women, seek support, ask for prayers, are encouraged and motivated to stay strong as their bodies fight to keep their babies cooking’ until viability dates.

Praising in the Storm
Praising in the Storm – Image by Nelly

Each day, I read messages of women celebrating their rainbows birth after years of infertility and thousands of money spent on IVF, we see pictures of babies as young as 22 weeks in the NICU fighting for their lives and pray for them, women asking for prayers as they just found out they are pregnant and instead of celebrating, anxiety kicks in and they are on medication to curb depression , PTSD and other mental issues.

Couples who are on the verge of losing everything they have after spending more than 10,000EUR on a single embryo adoption which failed and now selling everything to try for the next IVF with no guarantee that it will work. How do all these women stay strong?

The day our princess Olivia Amali went to be our heavenly father, I logged on to get some encouragement from other mamas and as well offer encouragement to those who were still in the IC fight. On this day, the first message I read was the above quoted post from Melissa whom I have recently been in contact with and have learned so much from.

I saw her post and my heart bled for her and I felt sick in my stomach. As much there was so much brokenness in her post, there was still hope and that’s what I wanted to hold on to especially when Hope was the main message carrying us through our own dark time.

Melissa’s post and my girlfriend’s call made me think hard of how women or couples like them and their husbands cope with years of infertility, losses, financial burden etc.

I have received so many messages in my inbox of various testimonies like theirs and some still in waiting but are still trusting God. They will share their stories of how they stayed ‘floating’ in the stormy seasons in due time. Let us continue encouraging each other.

Points to take:

* When the enemy expects you to stay in a perpetual state of fear and worry, turn it to a continuous state of faith.
* Trust the Lord’s guidance ~ Proverbs 3;5-7
* Do not glorify the ashes, let His praise be on your lips.
* Make small victories and rejoice in these daily goals.
* Stay grounded in Christ and stay plugged in a community.
* Try not to think ahead of the ‘what ifs’ thoughts as those may never happen and you will be left with grief that you may never experience them. This is different feeling from envisioning something in hope.
* Have a heart of gratitude and write down some things you are grateful for.
* You or your body might not function as someone else’s and every baby or loss you encountered were all part of who you are today.
* As much as it hurts, your broken heart was and is still a part of His plan.
* Embrace that this is your journey and allow yourself to cherish each small victory an not take the miracle of giving birth for granted.
* It is not your fault that your body is failing you.
* Allow yourself to rely on others for support and try to let control ~ “Just Be Held”.
* Try to focus on what you have and not compare your milestones with others.
* Put this waiting time to use and as time that you will never get back.

We are all in one waiting season in our lives. I would like to encourage us to stay rooted in God and let him show us the purpose of ‘You’ or ‘Me’ being in this season of waiting. We do not want to realize later like Jacob ‘’Surely the Lord was in this place’’. and we just missed him because we were occupied with the dry bones and ashes.

We want to feel Him in this dry season and be aware and also amazed of the glorious promises he is fulfilling behind the scenes. Let us therefore take our eyes off ourselves and our ashes and put them on Christ and His unseen promises.

The truth of the matter is , It is a new day with new mercies and God is asking you “ CAN YOU SEE IT”? But the question is, how will we see what He is doing if we are only ‘praying and asking to be rushed out of the painful seasons? Instead, let us ask of more of Him to be revealed even in our trying seasons.

Isaiah 43 :19.

For I am about to do something new.
See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?
I will make a pathway through the wilderness.
I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.

‘’God is getting ready to shift you into a new place. You will have to let go of the old ways of doing things. It is a new day. God has troubled the waters so that you can be thrust into your new season in Him. He has hardened some people’s hearts and made their eyes so they can not see or understand you. He is showing you who you are in Him and who He is in you.

He is closing the mouths of those you crave approval from so you can find your confidence in His Word alone. He is pruning you and you will produce more fruit for His glory. You will reach more people than you thought possible and touch the lives of many. It is time you rise up from your place and accept God’s invitation and His calling to go higher and to go deeper.

You may be all in your feelings because of your situation, my sister, but you’re about to be all in His divine purpose and fulfilling His awesome plan for your life.
He will be glorified in the earth and He will be glorified in your life.’’
DoK.

Love always.
Nelly.