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As a single lady, one area that I’m sure a lot of us experience challenges is sexual intimacy.
The clamor for sex is sickening. The enemy dangles it in your face like you can’t do without it. You can’t damage your life before marriage. You have to step into it whole ~Hebrews 13:4.<\/a> When you crave for something the most, it never comes your way. You don’t need to pleasure yourself in the bid to while away time i.e. masturbate. You need to pour yourself into an activity that brings self-worth, pride, and fulfillment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I feel left out? But then am I really? Life is in stages and everyone goes through them at different times Eccl 3:1-11. I am blessed with singleness, and I need to enjoy it and accomplish the unaccomplished goals. I noticed that when I start being idle the temptations arise. Therefore, don’t mark time, be involved, and bless lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another area is purpose. I think sometimes we need to ask “Who am I? What are my strong attributes? Do I believe in myself<\/a>?”. Here are some things I know about me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I am bold, courageous, friendly, funny, I save well, I am brilliant, I have good ideas, I love to see things change, I love fries, chocolate, I have a knack for good things.
Most of all, I’m loved by the King of kings John 3:16<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then should define me? What God says or the compliments I have from people? The reason I ask these questions is that as a single lady, there are times I feel alone or maybe something’s wrong somewhere. So then I start to search for where those thoughts are coming from and question my motives or thought process ~Romans 12:2, Phil 4:8. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are more examples of those questions.
Do I think that when I don’t have a particular interest in a type of man, I’m not beautiful or attractive?
Am I a people pleaser than a God pleaser?
Do I always seek reaffirmation from people always?
Do I feel unworthy because I’m feeling not love-able? What baggage do I carry that hinders me from being free to be loved?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I honestly dread a bad testimony about me from people I have interacted with. The fear of them knowing my flaws makes me feel unworthy, unlovable and could make it difficult when actually someone might care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know some of you might be like me with all these thoughts. I just want to let you know that you are not alone. I find my strength daily in God’s word and here are a few of those I love are Ps 139:7-18, Phil5:6-7, Rom 8:28;35-39, Jer29:11, Eccl3:1-11, Jos1:7-9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These verses encourage all the time knowing that He has a plan and being single is part of that, so I take my time to enjoy it to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To all my single ladies out there, your best days are ahead of you. Keep your head high and wait in purity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seyi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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As a single lady, one area that I’m sure a lot of us experience challenges is sexual intimacy.The clamor for sex is sickening. The enemy dangles it in your face like you can’t do without it. You can’t damage your life before marriage. You have to step into it whole ~Hebrews 13:4. When you crave for something the most, it never comes your way. You don’t need to pleasure yourself in the bid to while away time i.e. masturbate. You need to pour yourself into an activity that brings self-worth, pride, and fulfillment. Sometimes I feel left out? But then am I really? Life is in stages and everyone goes through them at different times Eccl 3:1-11. I am blessed with singleness, and I need to enjoy it and accomplish the unaccomplished goals. I noticed that when I start being idle the temptations arise. Therefore, don’t mark time, be involved, and bless lives. Another area is purpose. I think sometimes we need to ask “Who am I? What are my strong attributes? Do I believe in myself?”. 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